"Pleasure only starts once the worm has got into the fruit, to become delightful happiness must be tainted with poison" - Georges Bataille

Tuesday, December 26, 2006

Boxing Day thoughts

Yes, I'm one of those unfortunate few that has to go back to work after Christmas. A lot of people has take leave and better still, some got the day of due to the kindness of their employers. I understand that being in the manufacturing industry, its hard for my company to do so as it affects yield which affects the money we make. But that doesn't mean that i cannot be bitter about going back to work. especially since i know Jeff will be in snuggling up in his warm bed without me. Drats!

Anyway, i came to work, draggingmy feet and went through my routine of signing in to MSN, checking singnet mail & reading BM's blog. Her blog on X'mas eve detail how her 'Goof Fren' had surprised her with a 3-hr SK II Spa session in a private room. after that he further surprised her with a sumptous (a.k.a expensive) dinner at Halia Restaurant at the Botanical Gardens. Then a thought came to me (not sour grapes hor), if 'Good Fren' & 'BM" were not earning quite a healthy income, would they be able to lead such fairy talish lifestyle? I mean how to afford, right? Then i started to think, how do poor people romance each other? They have candle light dinner in their one-room flat, eating porridge with salted fish? Toast to the new year with tap water (provided they got money to pay for their PUB bills?)

Conclusion = No money equals no romance..sad..

Sunday, December 24, 2006

Uncertainty

Just the other day, JY jio me and Aln to meet up. I had thought that it was a normal gathering and had asked KZ along. Just as i was about to leave the house, JY msg to say that if i was going, she'd prefer that i came along. I had no choice but to tell KZ that we cld not go our for drinks but i still met him somehwere nearby for coffee.

By the time i reached Harbourfront, it was almost 10. The nightmare bus took 45 minutes!! Anyway, it turned out that JY had some family issues and both me and Alan gave her some advice. Hope it all turns out well for her. Its rather sad and that sorta set us both thinking of the uncertainty in live I told JY that the uncertainties were because it concerns people (ren).

Later that night, we went over to St James Power Station and Kai was and he popped over to meet us. He asked me if i was seriously getting married and said that he'd be very sad if i did. But i seriously think that he was not serious when he said that. Kai and i dated more than 10 years ago. The Kai that i liked back then is a very different person from who he is right now. It kinda saddens me to see him this way but i still wish him all the best. I must admit that i have considered how things will be liked if i ended up with him but i know that he can never give me the sense of security that Jeff gives me. So, its all pretty clear, in an SMS to Kai i said that this wasn't goodbye but deep in my mind i know it is.

Kai, this is goodbye. Goodbye to the days of cup noodles and chocolate cake..Goodbye to the memories at the river besides Omni Theatre..Goodbye to my young lover..Goodbye..

I will take your well wishes and blessings when i put on my wedding gown. I know u will be happy for me and that we can be good friends as ever. I wil still be there to give you any advice if you need me..Thanks for the memories.

Monday, December 11, 2006

Finally! My Darling is coming back today!

I left for London on 23 Oct 06 and me and Jeff have not seen each other since then. It has been 7 weeks, that is 49 days!

During this period of time, both of us went through a lot. For me, I'd flew and travelled alone in a foreign land. Much as i kinda had friends with me most of the time. The time i spend transiting alone from one plc to another was a learning experience on its own. I guess Jeff is right to say that i give myself too little credit and I am actually more independent than i thought i was.

Jeff himself had also being through a lot but i guess he had alway been a survivor..its just in his character. Making do with things.

The period after i returned from London took a bit of adjusting. I had so much free time on hand that i did not know what to do. I went through a few days of just going home straight after work and watching Tv with my mom. But given my character, i didn't last very long.

I arranged to meet up with friends, colleagues..for drinks and diner ..sing KTV and play MJ..The highlight is the Latin dance class which JY, Don, Jas and I signed up for. It wasn't easy but we had lots of fun. After classes, we'd go for dinner together & tok a bit of cock so it wa actually quite relaxing.

I think the key take away is that both jeff & i shld still work on our personal space. If not, we will lose our identity & friends if we stick together as a couple too much..